Real Life Stories from Egypt (1)

This part of the blog will be dedicated to stories about the Egyptian community and relations from real life.

A puzzling story was narrated to me last night, as I am interested in writing about relationships in the Egyptian community… a rich divorced lady met a police administrator who is way younger than her. She liked him, so she proposed to marry him. The guy told her that he is married with kids and he can’t afford being with her. He barely makes it through the month.
She offered him to support him and his family. He went to his wife, the mother of his kids, and told her about the offer. She was ok with it. She told him that it is ok for him to marry the other woman as long as they are getting support out of it.
The rich lady got the family an apartment not far from where she lives in order to make it convenient to the new husband to be between both. She got him a café to run and benefit financially from the revenues. Today, the rich wife visits the poorer one and brings presents to his kids. This is the situation until I wrote these lines.
Doesn’t this story tell a lot about interests in the society? Marriage became a market for supply and demand… the rich lady wanted a man for sex and company without strict marital obligations. Hence, she bought that. She put on the pants, she proposed, paid for the marriage and she is the one on top of the relationship. She pays, she orders. She gets all what she wants done by a husband ... the dream of every woman, assistant, love, compassion, companionship… the whole package because she paid for it.
The man is benefiting in this case, he gets laid, sleeping with a woman he might have not dared to dream to be with, and he became richer. He is able to support his old family without problems. He has accepted slavery to a rich woman and in return his life became easier. But, where that leaves him as MAN? Where will his dignity be? Where is his self respect? How will he face his children when they grow older? What kind of ethics will he teach them?
As for the old wife, she didn’t care about emotions rather than material factors. This is very practical solution for her problems. She doesn’t love her husband, otherwise, she might have had problems in accepting the fact that he will be going with another woman. Also, circumcision might be one of the reasons that if he is going to sleep with another woman, hence, he won’t bother her that frequent to have sex with her where she gets no pleasure whatsoever. For her, this was a business proposal, so she didn’t react emotionally to it but making a fuss how her husband is going to marry another woman, but she weighed the matter. The pros and cons and she had found out, if he goes and marry the woman without her approval, he may abandon her and the kids. Hence, it might be worth it to accept the fact that her husband will have another wife but she will benefit out of it. Now, she lives comfortably and has her material demands met rather than being deprived of life.
The question is; are they happy? Where are the moral values to be taught to the coming generations from such stories? How did the institution of marriage become a product subject to demand and supply theory? What kind of emasculated men this society ended up with? Are the social, economic or psychological factors the reason for sucking dignity and self esteem from Egyptian men?
This is an example of one social/family issue that I intend to write about and try to answer the questions; why and how did we reach this level of value corruption in Egypt?